6 things to do for 2020

Sometimes life gets in the way of the “plans” that we make.  Obligations, personal goals, careers, family, and even self.  When this happens, some people forget a few things along the way. So here are the 6 things that I want you to remember moving forward into 2020.

#1) Develop better work/life balance

When I decided to seriously focus on my writing career over the past eighteen months, I spent months at a time in my writer’s cave.  However, I always made time for my family, close friends, and community work.  Still, in order to crank out novels that range between 50,000-70,000 words, and then take them through second and third drafts…well, it’s not hard to get “lost” in the process and become a hermit.

Writing can be autonomous work because, if you’re not writing, then you’re reading about writing, or keeping up with industry news in publishing, studying the works of other writers, or doing a heck of a lot of research about your characters-clothes, jobs, emotions.

Still in all your getting, don’t forget about establishing a clean boundary between work and life.

#2) Embrace and/or create fulfilling organic relationships

I know this seems pretty fundamental.  But in the world of social media, sometimes, genuine, person-to-person contact is lost between the LMAO, or ROTFLOL and the tweets, pinning, liking,  and the “I heart Us” on Instagram.  People connect so much online that they “forget” to connect offline.  Also, sometimes we’re so busy trying to get where we want to be, we don’t acknowledge the people already in our lives organically.

I’m the type of person who likes face-to-face interaction with loyal, trusted, friendships.  I’d rather have 3 close friends, than a 300 acquaintances. Networking acquaintances are great, but when you want to connect, really get on the “personal” level, seek those who love you for who you are, and not merely what based on what they need from you.

I had an associate who knew alot of people.  Too many to count really.  But when the chips were down, only a handful showed concern about his well-being. It’s important to take stock of the people you allow in your life.  Be attentive to the energy, and circumstances they bring in your life.

If it’s negative, then it’s time to re-evaluate their role in your life.   If you don’t know who in your circle is for your good, or don’t have any.  Think about who you are as a person, and what a “definition of a friend” is to you, and seek those like-minded people.

#3) Get your spiritual house in order

The third thing to remember as you go into 2015 is keep God first.  Actually this is the FIRST thing you should do, however, I wanted the last part of this message to have a big impact.  No matter where you are in your life, no matter the circumstances, no matter the battles you think you’ve lost, or the dreams that you feel aren’t coming to pass.

Know that everything has it’s season. Different things are coming together behind the scenes, and I know it’s hard to see it, believe it because it’s taken so long, but if you continue to prepare yourself for that “moment”, write, read, take a course or two, maybe even go back to school, then you’re planting seeds, that will reap a harvest in their season.

#4) Be productive, not busy

There’s a difference between being busy for the sake of being busy, versus being productive.  I’m taking business admin courses and one of the classes I enjoyed was Management.  Why?  Well, it forced me to start thinking about the goals and projects, that consumed too much of my time and weren’t showing fruit.  Either I needed to revamp the goal or redefine the project, or…let it go.  This brings me to “Strategic Planning”.

Before that class I “planned” things, but they weren’t strategic.  Now I map out the steps I need to take differently when it comes to a project and I look not only at it’s initial function but short and long term desires, and how it can integrate into other products and services.

I prioritize based on time, interests and  budget.  If it fits, then I pray over and move forward.  If it doesn’t.  I set it aside, and get back to the MAIN GOAL.  Sometimes we can create “things” to do that take us away from the main goal and a year later we’re like.  “Dude…I worked my butt off this year, but didn’t accomplish the important steps to the main goal.  So be DECISIVE, STRATEGIC and COMMITTED, when planning your goals.

#5) Learn something new

Sometimes we get so caught up in striving for something that we tend to forget to  “learn” about self along the way. Sure we learn how to do our jobs better, or a skill or talent better, which ultimately is a reflection of who we are to some degree, but where is the FUN?

If what you do for a living is FUN then great.  But there are many people who have a job of necessity.  And they get so wrapped up in that and other obligations that the forget to have fun and learn something new.  So start crossing off things on your bucket list if you haven’t already! And if you don’t have a bucket list.  CREATE ONE today.

#6) Travel

Part of discovering self, is traveling to new places that pull you out of your comfort zone to stretch you.  Learning about new cultures, ancient civilizations, or learning more about your ancestry opens you up to new possibilities.  Check out my trips to Vancouver, Canada and Maui, Hawaii

Arctic Dogs with Jeremy Renner and Heidi Klum

Releasing Novemer 1, 2019

Swifty the Arctic Fox (Jeremy Renner), works in the mail room of the Arctic Blast Delivery Service, but he has much bigger dreams. He yearns to become a Top Dog, the Arctic’s star husky couriers. To prove he can do it, he commandeers one of the sleds and delivers a mysterious package to a secret location. Once there, he stumbles on a hidden fortress overseen by the nefarious Otto Von Walrus (John Cleese).

The blubbery evil genius commands an army of oddly polite puffin henchmen. Swifty discovers Otto Von Walrus’ villainous plan to drill beneath the snow-packed surface to unleash masses of ancient gas to melt the Arctic and become the world’s supreme ruler. 

To stop this sinister scheme, Swifty enlists the help of his friends:  PB (Alec Baldwin), a neurotic polar bear, Lemmy (James Franco), a scatterbrained albatross, Jade Fox (Heidi Klum), a brainy engineer, Leopold (Omar Sy) and Bertha (Heidi Klum), two conspiracy theorist otters and Magda (Anjelica Huston), his curmudgeonly boss.  

In Theaters November 1stOfficial Site | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram#ArcticDogsMovie

No you didn’t Agent Kaye

For those of you who didn’t see the Hawaii Five-O season premiere last night–shut this down and go catch up.  For the rest of you…here goes…

Agent Kaye is down with Wo Fat. Yepper– from the moment that short-haired brunette click-clacked her way onto the show, I knew she was up to no good. Actually, to add a little Texan lingo in there, ‘She did the fool’.

It was so painfully obvious and I fault the writers on that.

Nobody believed a ‘sistah’ (ME) but now I get to say, fo’ shame on all you disbelievers!

Let’s be real, the writers of the show had to add that twist to the story for the cliffhanger (doorway) that would drive us into this season. Besides, how else could Wo Fat always be three steps ahead of the dynamic task force?

Agent Jenna Kaye [Larisa Oleynik] –oh you elven-lookin’, innocent-acting deceiver–was too much a contrast to a scorned woman on the hunt to avenge her love. Not forgetting to mention, she arrived to the tropical island around the same time as Wo Fat.

HELLO people!  *waves arms wildly in the air.*

Come on people, get a clue.

Anywho, what do you feel is Agent Kaye’s REAL connection/agenda with Wo Fat?

TRIVIA: What multiple Emmy awarded TV show, starring Jon Hamm, did Larisa Oleynik star in?

My trip to Amsterdam

A Single Lady’s Guide to Amsterdam

Traveling has become one of the top, self-pampering indulgences for me, especially since I’m strapped in a cubicle 80% of the year.  Either I’m handling accounts in advertising during the day or creating at night.  When you’re indoors most of the time, it’s a rare, rewarding treat to get outside from time to time.

I grew up by the water for over half my life, so whenever I get time away from the grind of Downtown Dallas, I make sure my travels take me near majestic mountains or the coastline of the Pacific.

And every blue moon I get a real treasure: Traveling Abroad.

I find it inconceivable that as a military dependent for over twenty years, my family never lived abroad. My first trip out of the U.S. happened rather unexpectedly. There are times when you have a staycation where you stay home and seek to disconnect from the world.  In 2005, I traveled to Europe.

First, we took a long flight across the Atlantic Ocean. When we arrived at Amsterdam’s International Airport, I checked into the hotel, Grand Tulip. The choice of lodging was strategic for its central location in Amsterdam, where a number of coffee shops, bars, and discos were within walking distance.

I also fancied its location because it was close to trams, the Jordaan— once a working class district in Amsterdam, it was now a thriving upscale society with art galleries, specialty shops, and restaurants—and had Wi-Fi.

I entered the hotel with my aunt quickly, setting my luggage next to the table. At the window, I marveled the view of the IJ, the river flowing through central Amsterdam. Soon after, I rolled up my sleeves and cleaned areas before unpacking.

Once my aunt and I were settled I placed one of two copies of my important documents in the room safe and the other set spread out between my backpack and room luggage. After my belongings were secured, I put a travel pack around my waist and grabbed my backpack, which contained, bottled water, snacks, change of shoes, camera, cell phone, sweater, and identification.

The moment that I stepped into the outdoor air, I took a deep, cleansing breath, fully intent on getting the most of my day. On my journey, I noticed narrow cottage-themed houses with clapboard shutters, gambrel roofs with flared eaves covered in clay tiles, dotting either side of the picturesque tapered and winding brick-paved canals. Splashes of vibrant reds and varying shades of greens and blues that matched the color of a clear and sunny day covered many of the houses.

I ambled over footbridges and along grachts—waterways in the city with streets on both sides of the water, normally lined with houses—all the while watching people ride bikes as a primary source of transportation if they weren’t walking. Even during my walk down the waterfront of the IJ, there were plenty of bike racks.

But the time spent at the bay was breathtaking. I could not believe that I’d hopped on a plane to Amsterdam. Soon we were trekking through the Jordaan district and visited the Emperor’s Canal. We tried some of the native food like Patat Oorlog, Holland’s version of French fries, stacked high in a snow-cone shape funnel with a healthy spoonful of mayonnaise, and spiced peanut butter sauce.

I also tried the Turkish Pizza, a spicy meat sandwich served on a pita with cucumber sauce, shredded lettuce, chopped tomatoes, and julienne carrots rolled up like a burrito. I savored each piping hot mouthful, washing it down with a can of soda.

Over the next few days, we walked, boated, or took the tram to see more canal sights, buildings, and the Gothic elements of the architecture intertwined with classicism and Renaissance impressions.

We rounded out our trip walking along the Rozengracht canal, where the famous painter Rembrandt spent the last years of his life. On a tour, we also saw the house of Anne Frank where the young girl went into hiding during World War II.

The best part of the trip for me was taking the tram to the Dutch province of Utrecht. The town had many historical buildings and its structures still encompassed remnant architecture from the early middle ages.

We visited the Dom Tower, the tallest church tower in the Netherlands at 368 feet. The tower was part of the Cathedral of Saint Martin, built between 1321 and 1382. Capturing the awe of formative Gothic appeal derived from its preceding Romanesque architecture, the tower, and the vestige of the cathedral housed tall lofty ceilings, modular floors, and stairways. I still marvel at the memory of the antique, stained glass windows where the striking rays of the sun hit the glass and illuminated the cathedral.

Our guided tour took us through Kasteel Haar, a castle with impeccable lush green gardens. I also stood on the ledge of one of the last operational windmills in Holland. Before leaving the windmill, we saw grain pouring into barrels from the mill.

My last night in Amsterdam, I stood along the waterfront of the IJ river, where my journey began and found a certain peace and growth during my vacation. There’s so much of the world to see, and sometimes we can take the little things for granted when we get stuck in a daily rut. I encourage you to take chances, travel more,—travel to new and exotic places—because in doing so, you will learn more about yourself. Don’t forget to pack consciously, know your budget and do your research.

Until the next adventure, travel light.

Shaking things up for 2017

I remember feeling fluid as if I was in a weightless chamber. Then my body tilted.  The ground rumbled and alarms went off. Pictures crashed to the floor.  The next thing I know my brother is yelling, “Earthquake”.

On a little naval base off the coast of California, we felt the Northridge Quake of ’94, and the aftershocks that followed.

As you can see, 1994 started off pretty other-worldly for me.  Not only did we experience one of the largest seismic activities in U.S. history, but my budding dance career ended after a car accident a month later.

1994 was also the year I fell in love and had my first “romance”.

Just enough “shake” in my world to alter my path.  Make different decisions. Choose a different path.

Now it’s 2017, and it’s time to reinvent and manifest a few things.  My website will be undergoing a major overhaul to correlate with some decisions and good news that’s come my way.

Watch for a summer re-launch and some “major news”.

P.S. I just read where a 4.9 earthquake hit Kualapu’u, Hawaii a few days ago. And less than ten hours ago, one shook Loma Linda,   No, I’m not a seismologist, but I do have a fascination about geology overall, especially oceanic crusts.

But the reason I bring up Kualapu’u is because I was there October 2015.   This just goes to show that timing is a big factor in what people perceive as luck. And sometimes you can’t wait for it. you just have to act. Sometimes you have to shake things up to turn decisions and timing into opportunity.

I hope you’re reading between the lines.  😉

Until the next post, Stay Lit.




Part of running a company, (and you my dear talented one, are a “business”) is knowing your vision.  As performing and literary artists, sometimes we forget that we are a mobile company, always connecting with others, providing and outsourcing services.  Yet, the financial, administrative, and self-marketing areas of our businesses suffer because most are not aware that they are a functioning business.

That’s where I come to the rescue!

Once you have your vision, then you will need to understand how to acquire the resources needed to bring that “vision” into fruition.  This is what I call Vision:Management.

After all, most anyone can learn to become a musician, actress, writer, or operate a company. However, it takes dedication, self-management and behavior modification, as well as tenacity to stay on the track of starting and attaining your vision.

The entertainment industry is hard.  In fact, it no longer (and probably never was) a business strictly based on talent.  It’s about believing in your vision, setting forth the tasks to attaining it, networking, and being open for opportunity.  This journey can be long, and arduous.  But with the right consultant beside you, anything is possible.

But first, it’s about managing your vision, not just your talent!

In the bible, the book of Habukkuk 2:2, the Lord says,

“Write the Vision, make it plain”.

Having a vision board, or creating a mind map of your vision is JUST the beginning.

I have researched for nearly fifteen years researching comparatives in performance and business operations in various fields of entertainment and have streamlined that knowledge into services that will help you focus on vision management.

This is about discovering your brand new brand, and developing groundbreaking products and services that will help you become a beacon in a sea of business conformity.  

This Vision:Management consulting and workshop, will help get you attracted to your vision and set forth the introductory steps to commence your journey.

One-On-One Coaching /E-Seminars

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