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The 1 That's Right 4 U
by: Kandie Delley {2002}
A tall figure steps into the moonlight. Your eyes meet and instantly faint electrical charges creep up your spine. Unable to escape the magnetism of the man before you, you remain immobile. This obvious figment of your imagination stood well over six feet. He was impeccably dressed. His sheer haircut funneled into trimmed sideburns and a goatee, which shadowed smooth hazelnut skin. A dimple peeks at you from the slight fold in his left cheek.
His chin, raised in confidence, intensified the appearance of strong, chiseled features sculpted within his visage. Muscles rippled beneath his clothing recording every movement of his sinewy frame. Long dark lashes surrounded hood gray eyes contoured with a mild Asian slant. His cool mint fresh breath washes over you as you slowly gasp for air. You close your eyes and feel his firm mouth leave a trail of kisses from your kiss-swollen lips, down the nape of your neck, into the crevice of your shoulder and nestle between your …
Stop, girlfriend. Don’t do it. Don’t even take that round trip ticket down memory lane. I know -I know that dream was off da chain. But sadly it’s not REAL! Wake up and smell the coffee. Refrain from being heavy lidded long enough for me to drop some science. Get up. Go jump in the shower while I blaze some thoughts through your mind.
Don’t torment yourself on the very idea of a “New Age Adonis”. So dating is not how you imagined and it’s full of games. Sitting at home watching reality shows and movies is not going to make that creation of the perfect man jump from your fantasies into real life. And…it won’t bring him to you any faster.
So you have the nerve to ask, “Why Am I Alone?” Let’s own up to some accountability. You don’t get out and mingle as much. And you’ve become a little testy due to some unjustified heart break I know, but the fact of the matter is life goes on and you can either roll with it or just ‘exist’.
It’s true some brothers are trippin’ but it’s time to come back to Earth and deal with a few things on your end as well. Mr. Adonis may be out there, but chances are, if he is, he’s attached. Only a blind woman would let a man that fine leave the premises (and in that case she’d blind and crazy).
However, there are many brothers out there who could be “Mr. Right For You”. So until you encounter the ‘man of your dreams’ you’ve got to make sure you’re the woman of ‘his dreams’ and be prepared to receive him. I’m not a dating specialist, but I’ve had my share of giddy feelings, smiles on end, and the ability to seemingly float on air. And dare I mention the imaginary magic carpet rides- right before a crash landing into heartbreak hotel?
I’m assuming a large percentage of us have been hurt at one time or other which we each handled our own special way. But the main thing is nobody’s perfect. Relationships are built on three primary factors: trust, communication and the willingness to accept each other as you are. To love someone is to be able to see past each other’s faults, which enables you to use the three primary factors.
How do you know if they’re right for you?
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